never get married. Look at that fool! He’s really caught now!” No matter how wonderful you tell them that love is, it makes no impression. Of course, the reason they see this exclusive lifetime commitment of marriage as frightful and limiting is that they aren’t in love yet! They haven’t admitted their need for such a love and begun to reach out by returning love. Of course they aren’t ready to give themselves away to obtain another! Marriage (and religion) is conceived as a crutch for the weak.